In the light of the verses mentioned in the first part of this article, the husband should understand that he doesn’t have any power from himself but from Jesus and he is totally dependent on Jesus. It will sound like this: "All my authority in family has been given to me by Jesus" or "By myself I can do nothing in my family, I’m doing only what I see Jesus doing, because whatever Jesus does I’m doing also".
The concept of head assigned to the husband confers him the authority to act with his wife as Jesus does with his Church.
2. Responsibility – the capacity and obligation to account for the way that he used the authority, and that’s in front of Jesus. "From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked".
There is no authority without responsibility! The husband is responsible in front of Jesus as Jesus said that he is responsible in front of the Father: "I have revealed you to those whom you gave me out of the world. They were yours; you gave them to me and they have obeyed your word. Now they know that everything you have given Me comes from You. For I gave them the words you gave me and they accepted them. They knew with certainty that I came from you, and they believed that you sent me" (John 17:6-8), and "…Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless" (Ephesians 5:25-27).
So, the husband’s responsibility is to feed his family the word of God, to give himself for his wife and to present her in front of God without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
The husband is responsible for the way he carries on his authority confronted by his wife and is also responsible for what his wife becomes during the years they spend together. In the Garden of Eden the first one called to give an account was Adam not Eve, because Adam was responsible for what Eve was doing under his authority.
3.Serving – the capacity and obligation to fulfill the needs of his wife and family (and we are not talking about caprices). There is no authority without serving! Jesus said: "… whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave— just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many." In the light of these words, we have to say that any husband who wants to have authority in his home, he must be the servant of everyone first, because he is not the head of the family to be served but to serve, till sacrifice. Maybe some of you will say as the disciples said: "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry".
In a family were the husband fulfills his role of head (κεφαλην) in these 3 ways, his wife will be a helper suitable for him. And do not forget, everything will be easier when you have the Creator on your side: "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves and a cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
Once a husband understands what really means to be the head of his family/wife he must follow Jesus model and answer every day to his call full of love:"If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow Me." Taking Christ’s cross daily means to die to yourself and serve to the best of your abilities and knowledge the one who will inherit with you the gracious gift of life. (I Peter 3:7). This is not in accord with our sinful nature - it’s a will exercise and it takes time to really learn is so… we need practice!
The reward of a biblical conduct from a husband it is a wife who will love her place under his authority and with God’s help will be a suitable helper for him. That’s the real joy of being husband!
The concept of head assigned to the husband confers him the authority to act with his wife as Jesus does with his Church.
2. Responsibility – the capacity and obligation to account for the way that he used the authority, and that’s in front of Jesus. "From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked".
There is no authority without responsibility! The husband is responsible in front of Jesus as Jesus said that he is responsible in front of the Father: "I have revealed you to those whom you gave me out of the world. They were yours; you gave them to me and they have obeyed your word. Now they know that everything you have given Me comes from You. For I gave them the words you gave me and they accepted them. They knew with certainty that I came from you, and they believed that you sent me" (John 17:6-8), and "…Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless" (Ephesians 5:25-27).
So, the husband’s responsibility is to feed his family the word of God, to give himself for his wife and to present her in front of God without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
The husband is responsible for the way he carries on his authority confronted by his wife and is also responsible for what his wife becomes during the years they spend together. In the Garden of Eden the first one called to give an account was Adam not Eve, because Adam was responsible for what Eve was doing under his authority.
3.Serving – the capacity and obligation to fulfill the needs of his wife and family (and we are not talking about caprices). There is no authority without serving! Jesus said: "… whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave— just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many." In the light of these words, we have to say that any husband who wants to have authority in his home, he must be the servant of everyone first, because he is not the head of the family to be served but to serve, till sacrifice. Maybe some of you will say as the disciples said: "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry".
In a family were the husband fulfills his role of head (κεφαλην) in these 3 ways, his wife will be a helper suitable for him. And do not forget, everything will be easier when you have the Creator on your side: "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves and a cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
Once a husband understands what really means to be the head of his family/wife he must follow Jesus model and answer every day to his call full of love:"If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow Me." Taking Christ’s cross daily means to die to yourself and serve to the best of your abilities and knowledge the one who will inherit with you the gracious gift of life. (I Peter 3:7). This is not in accord with our sinful nature - it’s a will exercise and it takes time to really learn is so… we need practice!
The reward of a biblical conduct from a husband it is a wife who will love her place under his authority and with God’s help will be a suitable helper for him. That’s the real joy of being husband!
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